hi iris,

tell your 't benny told you; "she's trying to compensate for not having a "valid" response. it was inconciderate to compare you with someone that would pour boiling water in their eyes. maybe she's the one that's blind.???"
everyone gets stressed around the holidays, including her. but to some of us it can be a horrorible nightmare, that never completely heals. it wasn't your " choice" to have, whatever happened to you, happen.
we chose to dissociate. it was forced on us. we've had enough. peolple invailidate us, that's part of our abuse! that's why we see a therapy duh.... it's not because to want to pay someone a lot of money, for their company. (((((please))))) we "have to" seek help now. it wasn't there when we needed it. ( that sould have a familiar ring to it ) you have every right to feel very upset about what she said. that was absolutely the worst thing she could have done as a 't."

if you are too shy to tell her yourself, feel free to print this out
and hand it to her.

your's truly,
benny