personally, what i would do, is to shame him for what he did.

i would tell your friend, i would tell the band. it would be hard telling your husband, but i would tell him. otherwise if he found out another way he would question why you didnt tell him, then he woukd question if there was more to it, and thats why you didnt tell him. tell him exactly what happened. you arent responsible for his reactions, and besides, im sure he wouldnt hurt or kill this bloke.

you werent unfaithful, as you did stop him and you did take his hand away, and get up. you stopped it going any further. so how does that make you unfaithful?! YOU did the right thing, HE did not.

he invaded your personal space, so of course you are bound to feel uncomfortable and violated. thats only natural to feel that way.

you shouldnt have to stop seeing this band that you love just because of this "nobody". if you made the band aware of what happened, it is up to them how they react to it. you are being honest and faithful, he obviously isnt.

these peopel shouldnt get away with it, ever. people have the right to know what they are up against with him.

but remember, it was an "out of the ordinary" situation, and he was drunk. im not saying this makes it all ok, but alcohol makes people do things they normally wouldnt do. people still need to know, though, including your husband.

of course, thats all in my opinion, and i am saying all that with the thought of "what would i do". its up to you, but to be honest and truthful from the start is always the best way.

simon