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Originally Posted by lightcatcher
...........I don't know if you feel or think this- I think, for me to truly get through my stuff I have to let myself need her, then build myself (with her help) to not be needy of her. It sounds silly, but how can I truly work through feelings when I'm denying the feeling if need? Doesn't mean I won't fight it along the way  |
This is so hard for me... I have no idea what to do. I feel one part of me that seems to be rather childish has needs that I do not like such as wanting to feel loved, special, cared for, protected,
held, be able to be vulnerable, somebody to tell her things are going to be ok and so on ......
The question the adult me is asking are: is my T ready to hear about these needs? Can I show them to her? Is she willing to meet them somehow??
I think it is ok to talk about them, I think it is even ok to show them BUT my T is never going to meet them or even come close sooo why even bother? Why get into them, why open them let them come close to me and then feel the pain of not having them met again?? I guess some Tīs are willing to even meet them to some digree and that is great and probably worth a shot. Maybe your T is that kinda T??