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Old Oct 21, 2013, 10:18 AM
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I am so so so in love with my Boyfriend, I think about marraige and kids. I cannot see myself with anyone else. Only problem is, we argu all the time, almost every day. Some arguments are worse then others. I do everything I can to make him happy, he says I do to much?? I dont know what I do wrong.

I feel like I have to walk on Egg Shells around him, make sure that I say the correct thing at the right time. I have not quite figured out how to talk to him, I am an emotional thinker, I think of the what ifs, he is a "brian" thinker, and is stuck in the past. I hate feeling like if I say something wrong its going to be an argument and hes going to say hurtful things to me. Sometimes he brings me to the point that I say hurtful things to him, I hate getting to that point because I know my words hurt him more then his will ever hurt me, when he says hurtful things to me they are out of anger, and mostly just things he knows are going to hurt me, when I say them they are from the heart, and things that in normal conversation I would never bring up in fear of starting up an argument.

I dont want to live like this, I want to be able to communicate effectively with him and STOP most of the arguments, I just dont know how to do it, I feel like no matter what way I go with the conversations it will be wrong. I feel like I cannot breath when we argu, he always runs, ive learned that about him and he has told me several times. Do I need to just keep my mouth shut, do I need to not be afraid and just let him be mad??? Do I need to walk away from the situation when we argu and just say NO IM NOT ARGUING CALL ME WHEN YOU ARE READY TO TALK, I dont know what to do, But i cannot live like this, Its stressing me to the max. I need answers... From him, from sombody, why he is the way he is.

Im so scared to lose him, I cant lose him. I think communication is what we lack . I NEED IT FIXED
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