He was married once before...and early in our relationship he said that the ex-wife wanted to try counseling, but he would not do it. I doubt he would do it now. I told him recently how I was tired of doing everything...and I am angry, the job situation...helping around the house. He came back with he has taken care of my son and watches the dog during the day. My son is a teenager and in prior years would go to afterschool programs. In my opinion the dog does not need to be "watched" all day. How much effort does that take? He should contribute in some way. I do provide food and a roof over his head. He has also made comments about how its "Your house". He is also older than me and has chronic ailments he claims make it hard to do things. Hundreds of people with chronic knee and back problems work everyday. I am tired of the excuses. I am going to seek counseling for myself. I don't think I want to live the rest of my life like this.