When I had my children I didn't know I was bipolar, bpd or anything. I thought everybody just struggled the hell out of everyday. In my lowest points I say that I should never have had children. But to be objective , it is hard ,unbelievably so when a parent has mental health issues but what they know compared to other children is: how to have compassion, that all kinds of people have many different facets, you can't judge them on what everybody else says. A recognition of their own sensitivities, that we will talk about everything and anything. I see my kids are open, whether it is about race, gender, mental health. And I see them integrated within their school and community. I see them as fair and very accepting and discerning. That doesn't mean they don't have their problems. Big challenges all the time but I think that occurs with any "normal " parenting for example you could say mine were fairly "normal" but they helped screw me up in wonderful ways.
My own inner disgust tells me often that I should never have had children and that I don't deserve them. Putting restrictions on a certain set of people not having children screams Nazi to me.
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