I was extremely young with my first two. Married and a mother at 15, then a mother again at twenty. I was completely unprepared, in an abusive relationship, all around terrible at life. My mother has my older children, and even though I do everything I can for them, I am racked with guilt every day. I can completely understand how it would be a bad idea to have children when life is out of control.

I also have a four year old. I am medicated and generally do very well. I could not handle being a stay at home, so I work full time and take care of my little angel every night. I have times when I'm not so great at mothering, but I try. Having her helps keep me leveled out because I seek help at the first signs that I'm losing control. I can't imagine what my life would be like without her. Because my husband and I carefully monitor my well being, I don't feel like it will be terribly detrimental to her well being. I hope she will be more understanding about mi because of it.