oh wow. I would HATE that. Particularly since you didn't know, i think that is very unfair and you deserved to know that. I don't blame you for feeling angry.

Also, you've had to deal with missing your exT and basically her not being in your life and she hasn't been doing the same because she's still keeping tabs on you. How is a friendship going to work if she hasn't fully stopped being your therapist (albeit inadvertantly) where is the 2 year break from her side? It just seems dishonest.