Today was interesting for me. I opened up and showed T (she requested but it was completely my choice) my sh scars that i'd originally told her about. I no longer cut there, but she knows that. She wasn't turned off, judgemental or mean about it at all. She asked me to explain the mark, how I feel before, during, etc. My most recent urges (a few days ago) I finally opened up to T (through email) letting her know how strong they were and it seemed to help the urges pass - so she's encouraged me to try this again the next time it happens to see if I get the same result and she will accept it all freely. That T is a very interesting woman...but I do love her so.