Older for me, too. But it more has to do with the fact that I want someone with lots of experience, like 20 years at least practicing as a PhD psychologist (someone who has supervised, seen a lot of different clients/issues - I know that what I have going on is complex. So that would make such a person at least late 40s. I'm 38, so that person would have to be older. The 3 Ts I've had whom I've liked the best have all been in their mid-50s. The first was like 25 years older and the other two closer to 20 years older. Both of the latter two are very young at heart, share the same cultural references as me, hell, liked the same music, etc. So they didn't at all feel too old for me.