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I do not believe that the psychological issues you mention (issues with trust, not being able to hold on to him as being good-enough, fearing the attachment, etc.) are 'symptoms' of memories still being buried. Nor do abandonment fears necessarily mean that one has had an unsafe childhood. These are very very common issues in therapy and personally, I think it's best to keep an open mind as to the likely many and complex origins of such things. If these attachment issues had this 1:1 correlation with buried trauma, then that means that there are scores and scores of people out there with trauma they don't remember, and I just don't think this is the case. If it were only that simple.
As far as this comment making you feel wary, that's hard to say. Like Mouse, I really don't think some people are good at therapy and others aren't (which is the implication): everyone does the best they can and everyone is different.
A lot of people would feel good on hearing this, maybe you're fighting that it does make you feel good and that's where the ambivalence is? Or you feel you're too damaged to be good at therapy? You'll probably be able to figure it out in talking to him about it.
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