Ugh.....be very careful with home care people.....I ended up going through a horrible trauma with the home care person who manipulated her way into caring for my mother (a neighbor of my mother's BF & friend of his daughter)......I caught her having written checks out of my mother's check book & drugging my mother & trying to get her to sign the checks......she stole all my mother's valuable jewelry....as I couldn't be in the house when my mother came home from the hospital....this person graciously was there & all the jewelry vanished when I was going to put it safely away the next morning....it was all gone....along with my mother's wedding ring disappearing off her finger.....found of course by the home care person....who also found the checkbook that I was working with in the den....dropped behind the bed I was sleeping in.....caught her on the phone one morning giving out my mother's ID information along with mind (which was wrong)....I fought her for the phone & when I walked into the back bedroom with the phone trying to find out who she had been talking to (a CC company) the phone went dead....I found the phone chord to the base phone cut later that morning when I had a chance to look closer after she left. All these things left me with a really bad feeling about what was going on & I never left my mother alone at that point....but I was getting in the way of her goal because one morning when she was gone....got a phone call with her Caribbean accent claiming to be a social worker wanting to talk to my mother....I was listening to the conversation & it was about not allowing her daughter to control her finances & all about how family abuses people who aren't well....right after that, the police ended up at the door from found out from an anonymous call claiming I was abusing my mother.....which they found out wasn't true.....but it was after a whole morning of traumatic events. I had already talked to a bonded company the day before & had someone scheduled to come out....but this person had OD'ed my mother on her morphine while getting her ready to go to her DR's appointment & when I said there we were expecting a new care person to come....both my mom's BF & this home care person blew up while we were all trying to get my mother warmed up & stopped the shaking she was going through....called the paramedics & I used that chance to get my mother out of the house & get rid of the home care person while having my H change the locks on the doors.......it was am amazing nightmare I went through all in about 5 days....but it continued in the hospital & I ended up filing a report with the police...unfortunately I had done such a good job protecting my mother that they had no evidence to get her on.

Use a bonded home care provider if you get one for your mom.....it's much safer...I have heard of a lot of stealing that goes on with people who are dying of cancer & want to stay in their own homes.....my mother's home in reality couldn't handle her medical condition with the narrow doorways & the old toilets.......Sadly, my mother never should have come home that time......but there was a horrible mess with the hospital in that they never included me, the only family in any of the decision making processes & in reality, I'm sure that when my I fought her oncologist to have her put into the hospital that time the home care person got involved...I am sure my mother had a stroke the previous weekend from the bloodclots in her legs (when she said she lost her balance & slid down the door to the floor & couldn't get up....stupidly she called her BF to help her get up instead of 911.....but that was my mother's way of being in denial also......& her denial caused me so much trouble....I try NOT to be bitter about what she did & what I went through because of what she did...but it's really difficult even 8 years later when I actually stop to think about it again....at this time of year.....just added to any other PTSD issues I've had from the past.

Please be ware & be careful & always be a part of the decision making process even if she's still believed to be cognitively capable to make her own decisions