I need a T my age or older, but approximately in the same experience of life range as me. I would have trouble being confident in a T who was not a parent, for instance, as I have three children and a T without parenting experience would be clueless about many of my life challenges. I prefer a T who has marriage experience, even if it ended in divorce. I prefer a T who has lived through the same stages of life I have gone through. We have to be able to relate on that level. Sorry, but a 30-year-old, unmarried, non-parent just wouldn't have much to offer me.