Rainbow, we aren't telling you to stifle your feelings or hide information from your T. What we are saying is that if you get stuck on the little details of this situation and get hyperfocused on this truly old stuff that you have hashed and rehashed with your T a million times, you aren't applying the skills you have learned from her and from DBT at all. You'll probably get stuck.

My T refers to this as actually practicing what I have learned constantly and consistently in my everyday life, no matter how small the practice moment is. It is through application that the real growth and autonomy is made.

There have been times I've had speed bumps come up along the way. We all do. If I get focused on that speed bump and see it as insurmountable, I won't get over the bump and move forward. I'll stay stuck looking at it and not even see the road that lies ahead. I will forget that if I just hit the gas pedal, I have the ability to make that movement completely on my own.

This FB thing is a speed bump, not a mountain. You do have the skills to look at it, look beyond it, and keep moving. Use all those skills you've previously learned in DBT and therapy. You don't have to get stuck here, but I'm afraid you kind of like looking at the speed bump. Yes, it's painted yellow, has a curvy top, and is a few inches higher than the rest of the road. Great. Look at it, hit the gas pedal, and keep on moving. Don't get mesmerized by it.

You are looking at being without your T in a few months which is one of the reasons it is time to test these skills out for yourself. You aren't helpless here to manage this on your own, particularly since this isn't really a huge deal. It isn't like you took your sleeping bag to her house and slept on her front lawn. That would be a mountain. Perspective is good here.

So you can talk about how you can manage those day-to-day issues that come up. How they make you feel and what skills you can use to work through them. Maybe the FB thing will come up, maybe it won't. But you don't have to make the details of that the focus of your discussion of your therapist. You can look at the bigger picture here.