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Originally Posted by hankster
My opinion - I don't think it's supportive to tell someone to stifle their feelings when seeing their t. Also my t's opinion, as I asked him about this yesterday. I told him I felt like people were contradicting me, and he saidwell yes, your mother would contradict you and give you terrible advice that sounded good, but it was just in opposition to what you were saying. So that explains why I saw stars! This advice sounds good, but I dont feel holding back the truth, especially when you are running out of time, is a good plan. Plus I think this t needs some supervision - she is all over the place and not handling a fairly simple transference. Hell I could handle it better. Pardon my french.
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I agree with you ALSO, hankster.
It's just that it IS true that talking about it with my T does escalate my feelings for her. What the others were saying makes sense to me, but at the same time I don't want to hide anything from my T. I don't know what I will say today. It's up to me, not to anyone on this forum. If I try not to tell her this week, and it bothers me, I can tell her next week or in an email. I can TRY a dfferent way, at least. I always appreciate what you have to say. It's the nature of this kind of forum to get differing opinions and not have others agree with us. I find that hard to cope with, as you probably know!
What do you mean that my T needs supervision? I don't think it's a simple transference. What do you think she should do, or have done? I'm really interested. I think she's doing a good job; it's me who is messing up just like I do with every other T.
