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Originally Posted by hankster
My opinion - I don't think it's supportive to tell someone to stifle their feelings when seeing their t. Also my t's opinion, as I asked him about this yesterday. I told him I felt like people were contradicting me, and he saidwell yes, your mother would contradict you and give you terrible advice that sounded good, but it was just in opposition to what you were saying. So that explains why I saw stars! This advice sounds good, but I dont feel holding back the truth, especially when you are running out of time, is a good plan. Plus I think this t needs some supervision - she is all over the place and not handling a fairly simple transference. Hell I could handle it better. Pardon my french.
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I don't think anyone is advocating stifling feelings or hiding the truth (though Rain's reply seems to see it that way?). But the issue, at least as I see it, is about creating and indulging feelings for dysfunctional purposes. It's a distraction from the underlying issues, not an exploration of them. I think it would be better to address this tendency in a forthright way, but I don't think that's going to happen.