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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I don't think anyone is advocating stifling feelings or hiding the truth (though Rain's reply seems to see it that way?). But the issue, at least as I see it, is about creating and indulging feelings for dysfunctional purposes. It's a distraction from the underlying issues, not an exploration of them. I think it would be better to address this tendency in a forthright way, but I don't think that's going to happen.
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What is a forthright way to address it? T knows my pattern, and how I want love and to be loved, etc. We talk about my H and my kids. I have friends, etc. I'm reaching out; I just asked a couple over for dinner this week-end. I'm trying to focus on RL and not my T. I told my H in an "I" message what I would like regarding him and me. Yes, I have to ask what HE wants from me. It seems he just wants me to stop complaining about the mess in the house and stop making him try to change his schedule. I did ask him last night. I have to radically accept the way I feel about T. I have to radically accept my H. Maybe I have to go to sleep at 4 am. too. I don't know. I appreciate your feedback--very much, as I do everyone's.
