I wanted someone older. Partly for the parental dynamic, and partly just because I would rather see a T with plenty of life experience and plenty of therapy practice behind them. My T has been practising for 20 years and was a teacher for 15 years before that.

As my family is such a rotten mess, I really appreciate having an older adult in my life - and it makes T feel nicely different from my friendships. My T has turned out to be perfect for me because he's old enough to have that parental feel, but much younger than my parents (he's about 20 years older than me) so it doesn't feel like he actually could be my parent.