Thank you RomanSunburn. My friends have been really great, and I don't want to "wear out my welcome." But once a week or so sounds pretty reasonable to me...especially if I rotate them around!

I like the idea of signing up for classes or the gym and have been trying to get a bit more involved with a couple of the civic associations in my area (since I'm a new homeowner this year as well and now have more of a vested interest in community stuff).

It's hard to not be able to reach out to my ex when something happens (good or bad) since he was my usual "go to," but he has indicated that he's not ready to be friends and doesn't think talking at this point is a good idea. I've usually been able to maintain a friendship with ex-boyfriends, but he's completely disappeared with absolutely no discussion. (FB message break up with no other contact other than one follow up e-mail.)

Just curious if this is normal with most break ups....I think a little time is pretty reasonable but if the break up was not contentious, I see no reason to cut off all communication. I expect that it just comes down to different personality types, and I have to respect his way of handling things. But, I would have liked at least one personal discussion (even if just on the phone). It's just so awkward to try and explain to mutual friends....they've asked me "why," and all I can do is repeat what he said in his message (no other information).

Maybe developing some additional new friends who don't know him would help....then there would be no questions to answer.