The same thing happened to me. I had a t who would call me to make sure I was ok and was so caring and attentive. The more she did the more I wanted. I got needier and needier. I too obsessed.

I think the theory is that you will internalize that that they care and not need all of the enactments anymore but it didn't work with me. I'm not sure what that means about me.

I would talk to him about it before it spirals out of control like it did for me.

Good luck.