Just to come back, for one brief moment, on this. This job, I have. Well, it's the type, that I can apply for a new one, application into office on a Thursday, and by a Tuesday, a request for an interview.
I did, hear, an listen to your concerns about not being able to do anything, right now, or the commute, or what not.
It's just, when dealing with men, who control, control, control, having an outside source, is about the only means of getting out, if getting out is what you so choose.
And when I know, more details, about how long, they are willing to 'wait' for me, I will share.
I will tell you, my current employer, I started, and within one week, had some major sitter issues. Kept in communication, and they held that job for me, for TWO weeks, would have held it longer, so that I could scramble and get a new sitter arranged.
Certain, employers are more than understanding, compassionate, and once that contract is signed, I'm not kidding....she would have waited longer. May not have liked it, but man, what a break...when I needed one...
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I was a working mom, for my first son, then after the second, decided to stay home and almost right away, found myself pregnant with a third. Those times, of being completely financially dependent on my now ex husband were some of the worst years, a real wake up call.
He has control issues. To put things, mildly. He wasn't quite close to removing internet services, but there were threats to remove the computer from the home. If I logged into social media, his family was apt to mention hours logged in. That was before being able to hide whether you were online or not. And sometimes, I'd just log in, but step away from the computer or do something else, in a new window.
Working for me, now, is necessary, as a single mom. With the way my income is, working mother's hours, is a real possibility. My shift from married, to single, wasn't stressful. As, I already used to being the primary caregiver, the one at the pediatric appointments, home on sick days, school meetings(parent teacher conferences, iep meetings), all those things I did alone in marriage, I still do.
I like what Bonnie has to say about improvising work ideas. I'm, personally, far from mon-fri 9-5. If willing to even do elbow grease work, flexibility will be there, as will building up your female support network, and being in a position where if you make a bold decision, such as leaving, you will have something to fall back on, and instead of not being able to decide, due to finances, you can decide what's best for you; whether staying or leaving.
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