My T is pretty rigid with his boundaries...although I don't know for sure as I guess I've never really tried to overtly push them to see what he would do. He once went over time by like 10 minutes and I FREAKED out. There were other things that happened, but basically the next time I saw him I told him how much going over time upset me and I made it pretty clear it was not appreciated by me. He's never done it since....

All this to say, not that a T can't go over by a measly 10 minutes lol But I cannot take it when the boundaries get even a little bit fuzzy or I will start to obsess and just get confused. I sometimes wish T would let the time go over again (weird I know) but I always check the clock at the end and then when I see he hasn't gone over, I feel reassured that everything is "okay" still. I even end every appt the same way with a formal handshake lol I need the consistency very badly, I think...

I think this might be kind of like when you're a kid and you are mad at your parents for setting boundaries, but then deep down you feel cared about and appreciate it (well usually much later on).

I don't know if I'm on the right track or not, but your post reminded me of my feelings I have sometimes about my T. He is rather standoffish and it can seem cruel almost sometimes, but I know he cares about me on some level. I really need that and don't want to feel like I've been taken advantage of as this has happened to me in the past.