What happens if you don't give him anything? If you tell him you will spend time with him when he is home but you will do what you like with your free time?

As long as you aren't doing anything to violate his trust. What should it matter if you want to chat with friends, watch tv, exercise or go watch a movie. It is your time to do what you want and everyone has free will to choose how they spend their time.

Unless he has a legitate concern to why it would be bad then I would stand your ground. If you stand up long enough he will respect you eventually. If he doesn't then you have a choice to leave the situation.

The only power he has is what you give up. Being angry and placing demands on you is just manipulation.

It may turn into a heated argument or missing match but you have to put a line in the sand somewhere. You decide what you will put yo with.

My marriage isn't a beacon of positive example but both of us do have a mutual respect. I know if I tried to pull what your husband does Sarah would rebel just to prove a point. If she did it to me I would do what I felt is right for me even if it is against her wishes.

The only way you two are going to be at peace is two get ahold of your emotions and have a reasonable conversation. That is a lot easier said than done but it is what functional relationships have.

You have to balance emotion with rational thinking. If you let emotion drive everything then out comes jeolousy, insecurities and other stuff that should be put in check. If you just let rational think guide your conflict resolution then things will lose the emotional connection and feel more like a business meeting.

If none of that works for you ignore it, but that has been my experience.