Adam, I couldn't agree more.

What happens if you don't give him anything? If you tell him you will spend time with him when he is home but you will do what you like with your free time?

what would happen, well I tried that and he said "No, I said give it up all the time, for 30 days, not 30 evenings, 30 days all the time, don't touch it none" I'm not willing to do that. What if I said I could do with my time what I wanted to, he would tell me where to go and what to do with my free time and It would contain to many curse words to use here and is not nice.

As long as you aren't doing anything to violate his trust. What should it matter if you want to chat with friends, watch tv, exercise or go watch a movie. It is your time to do what you want and everyone has free will to choose how they spend their time.

I agree, that is my thinking to.He doesn't like me watching shows he doesn't like, or watching TV and taking attention from him either. so before it was the computer it was the TV.

Unless he has a legitate concern to why it would be bad then I would stand your ground. If you stand up long enough he will respect you eventually. If he doesn't then you have a choice to leave the situation. The only power he has is what you give up. Being angry and placing demands on you is just manipulation. It may turn into a heated argument or missing match but you have to put a line in the sand somewhere. You decide what you will put yo with.

Exactly, and I am not playing any more. If it comes down to it, the answer is I choose the computer over him. And that is symbolic of I choose not to have him dictate to me forever what freedoms I have. And if it ends this way then so be it.

The only way you two are going to be at peace is two get ahold of your emotions and have a reasonable conversation. That is a lot easier said than done but it is what functional relationships have

It is incredibily hard and this is wht we have been doing in t lately. We have been taking our issues and arguing right there with the T in front of us. She is my protector and she stops the conversation when she can and explains, "What I heard was....., What did u hear?" or "Wait a minute explain that a little more", or "stop, can u see she is crying" It is really weird, but it seems to help. the T is ready for us to separate and this is her last effort to get us threw this mess.

If none of that works for you ignore it, but that has been my experience.

I stood my ground, he called me a quitter and a looser, and was pissed I would not play his game. He walked away angry and that is ok. We all get angry. I hope that was the end of it and it never comes up again. I called T and she agreed that if he continues to bring this up then we need to talk about it in her office. And if things end over this then so be it and I agree.

Adam, thank you so much for your input. It means alot to have a friend give me there opinion as well