Hi, I'm I guy that's been through divorce, so I can understand what you are going through. I was the one that left her, so it probably didn't hurt as much as what you are going through. But it will get better, you will recover from this. You said "it's been a few months since the divorce announcement but it feels like it was yesterday". This is completely normal, I mean, it would be weird if you didn't feel that way. I think the only way to recover from this is time. Time heals. I'm not trying to be cold, but try to find a way to have patients, and you will recover. How old are you? Do you have kids?