From what you described, it seems like it is, mmd, but also physical abuse. He may think it's normal, but it's not acceptable. It doesn't seem like there is respect or trust. My ex used to scream, and have tantrums when I was around him, He even slapped me in front of people. I thought it was normal...he had excuses for them, but it' not normal, it's unacceptable - no excuses for the behavior. Have this become your past. You don't deserve this.