Can I just say I'm really happy you're trying another T as the old one seemed to be causing you a great deal of pain and upset. I don't like his approach at all. Sometimes you need a lifebelt.

For some reason, this reminds me of when I met my husband. He was nice, kind and polite, called when he said he would, didn't play games, didn't go for days without texting, and it freaked me out. I eventually worked out that I wasn't used to being treated decently. It confused me. It was unfamiliar.

Sometimes we can only take a bit of kindness and caring at a time. I think you should talk to your T and tell him that you appreciate his support, but you need to maybe make it a bit more structured. I agree with ultramar that he is in danger of creating needs that weren't previously there - it would be more helpful to work on coping between sessions.

If he cares as much as he says he does, he'll be open to doing what works for you, so don't be afraid to talk to him. I think ultramar raised some very important points and how he reacts to you bringing this up will be very telling.

My T is extremely choosy about when he replies to texts (he replies if he believes a reply is needed), and will only contact me unbidden if it's about scheduling. That annoys me, but I'm not sure it's such a bad thing.