Yeah, I figure all T's have quirks and I definitely know they aren't perfect! I just find bizarre that I brought up with her in a very direct way, including how I felt and reacted when she does it, and yet she continues. When we discussed the dismissive feeling she said this is a good learning opportunity to understand and accept not all my wants in relationships will be met. I need to determine whether I can accept the person and their denying of my request and my reaction/feelings together and continue with the relationship. In this case the dismissive feeling is strong and she hasn't given a proper reason for me to accept her lack of meeting my request other than it is a habit she needs to break. I mean, if she was expecting an important call or had an emergent situation I'd accept the non-behaviour change but just because she doesn't want to isn't enough.