I guess I am so adverse to it at this point of my life due to just coming out of a 10 year extremely bad phase of my life. I wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy, let alone my child. I know for a fact that many of my behaviours (ie self harm) were learned from my mother and as I go deeper into therapy I am finding my view of the world is very skewif because of the lessons I learned from my mother (unintentionally on her part). I dont blame her, she was a victim too. Where does the cycle stop?