If I had a clue on how to handle this I wouldn't be a asking for help - so all comments are welcome.

What do you do when your adult son/daughter asked to borrow money to buy a truck or car?

If you are on disability and could do it but would have to do without in your own life to make it possible for him.

My son has consistently worked the same job since high school and lived rent free. Where you have bailed him out of many situations - several thousand worth in the last 3 years and you have already lived very, very lean to help him. He's 22.

I find it so hard to say "no" because I don't want him to have the tough time I did while growing up and as a young adult.
I mean do you say no or yes because tech. you could do it but it really means that you will have to do without - manage your meds and food extremely closely.

If you say "yes" how do you get paid back. If you say "no" how do you say no.

Some of you make read this and laugh - thats Ok.... I laugh too but the situation of borrowing money sure does come up a lot and I would like to make a change.

Thanks.... freewill