Thanks for your input everyone. I talked to our therapist today after I had time to cool down and think a little more rationally. I have decided that for now I need to cut off contact with him and to take care of myself so I am better able to take care of our children.
I think he went into the psychiatrist today, but I don't know for sure. I don't know what frame of mind he is in right now, he has made no effort to contact me.
I was a total wreck yesterday, but some frineds came by and listened to me, and I know they are here to help and support me, and just knowing that makes me feel better.