I'm so sorry you've had to hear this stuff. A 12-year-old cannot legally say no - the age of consent is there for a reason.

Can I ask what country you're in? In the UK they've just released new prosecution guidelines about how CSA victims act that bust a LOT of stupid myths.

CPS publishes fundamental new approach to prosecuting cases of Child Sexual Abuse as local government and Family Courts agree to share information for stronger prosecutions