Oh my actual goodness. What a tool - you made the right decision unfriending him. And his being-a-tool-ness isn't your fault, or any reflection on you, FYI.

It's not over a sink of dishes. It's over his lack of consideration for you. Notice that his message doesn't say: "I'm sorry I left things in a state. I realise now that it was very inconsiderate of me. I'm so sorry - I've screwed up and I hope you can forgive me."

No, he just talks about himself and all the reasons why he didn't do it. If his lift came early, he could have told him to wait, or at least left a note apologising.

His message makes me think it's not that surprising he can't find a job - he sounds so ENTITLED. You are well shot. I applaud you for standing your ground.

(((hugs)))