Ok, a couple of questions;
1. How long have you been with your boyfriend?
2. Is the urge to have a child clouding your ability to see if your BF is 'the one?"
3. Why have you not had sex yet? Religious/moral reasons I understand, but if it's something else, I wonder why?

Ok, why do I ask these questions? Because I have personal/family experience of how things can wrong when the urge to have a child interferes with one's ability to make logical decisions. Yes, having a baby is emotional, but without some logic, there can be problems.

For example, my brother's wife wanted kids so badly and was worried about getting old. They got married and started trying right away. They had one and shortly after, it became clear that they really aren't a good match for each other. They get along well-enough, but no way should they have gotten married. Now they stay in the marriage for their child, but there is much unhappiness in their lives.

As for sex, I didn't think that was a big thing before marriage and kids. However, it has taken over 20 years for me to get up the courage to start improving our sex lives. We are not compatible in that area so it's a lot of work (emotionally) for me. Honestly I knew that we had different likes when it came to sex before we started trying to have kids, but we both wanted kids, and the age thing came into play, and I just didn't give it enough thought. Again, if you have religious or moral reasons for waiting, you are in a different situation than I.

Anyway, my husband is really a nice person. My brother and his wife are nice people. However, often I wish I could step back in time and think a bit more clearly before I had kids. Would I be with someone else, have a more fulfilling job, have different types of kids? I love my kids so I don't regret having them, but I do wonder if I should have made different choices so that my life would be happier at this point.