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I think a lot of people here have given advice based on what is thought most beneficial to you -with the issue of how your therapist, specifically, will react as a separate and maybe not as important part of the picture.
So people here have at times advised against sending e-mails because you have expressed a lot of anxiety and ruminating surrounding replies or lack there of, and because you've set not sending e-mails, at times, as a goal, so people will advise this based on this as well, as it seems reasonable to support you in reaching your goals.
How your therapist reacts to such things is something else entirely, though. She's fine with just about whatever you do. That's never really been a problem. I guess I see displeasing or pleasing your therapist in regards to your behavior as a separate thing. In other words, her not minding that you looked her up on FB, as a separate issue from if looking her up on FB is beneficial or damaging in some way to you.
But the way I see it now, at the end of the day, is that you're happy if your therapist is happy, so I don't see any point in worrying about stuff like this (FB, e-mails, etc.). Feeling guilty about it, which you probably do sometimes from what is said sometimes on the forum, is pretty pointless in this context. You may as well enjoy it fully and not worry if you're doing something 'wrong' or what she will think.
You know by now that if you post things like this (FB, etc.) you will often get replies advising against it, you surely expect this by now. So maybe your therapist is right, in a way. If you don't post these things, maybe you won't feel guilty, and no point in feeling guilty when everything is fine in the end, right? I'd say just go for it, sans the post-mortem here.
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