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Originally Posted by Rzay4
I can completely relate my now ex T had horrible listening skills. Even my mother commented on this on one session as she felt meeting my mother would help her know me better. After 5 sessions with her or so I felt we were going no where I knew more about her past and her failures and achievements than how to get through my own struggles.
Thankfully she referred me to a young adult group in which the therapist who facilitates that is amazing and I decided to make her my new therapist. She also even offered to call my now Ex T and let her know about the transfer, such a huge relief.
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So glad you have a new T and hope this works out really well for you
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Originally Posted by hankster
How long have you been with current t? This post would be a good thing to share. I feel I made a breakthrough on this point when I found some books by a t from my ethnic group - Italian american - dr peter b - im gonna have to look it up. I used it to help me explain myself to my t.
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thanks hankster; please do look him up and let me know who the author was sounds like something that might help me. Current T i've been with for over two years; but I still have major sensitivity with listening issues
I think at the moment I'm just more aware of how much issues connected with listening can set me off
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Originally Posted by skysblue
Tigergirl - I haven't experienced what you have in such extreme of not being listened to but I do have an inkling of the feelings you might have.
One of the things that propelled me to see a therapist was the need for someone to HEAR me and LISTEN. My T is very very very good at that. She talks very little and only when I ask a question or sometimes she will ask a question to help me get better in touch with my feelings.
It is soooooooo healing to be heard and I'm sorry you don't experience that much. I hope you feel heard a bit here on PC
Hugs
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thanks Sky
i'm so glad you've found that with your T ... and that she is a good listener AND hearer! I've noticed they don't always go together
even with what you shared; the talking little would sometimes make me think that the person on the other end wasn't really listening or that I was boring them and I'd start to worry that I'd done something wrong etc (I get to that point very easily of worrying i've done something wrong)
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Originally Posted by unlockingsanity
I am super sensitive about this too, for similar reasons. It just takes time and open communication with your T.
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thanks for sharing something of your experience ... has it improved for you over time?