I'm so surprised she is being a hard *** about it. You're kindly asking her, repeatedly, that she focus on the appointment that you're paying for, and she turns it around as though it's a lesson for you to learn?

It is NOT an excessive burden to expect someone who you are paying, to have their full attention on you.

If it were me, I think I'd be thankful that this happened early in the relationship, because breaking off a long term relationship with a T is really difficult. If it were me, I think I'd bring it up again and say, "I don't think it's unrealistic for me to ask or expect your focus to be fully on me and our session. If this isn't something you feel you can accommodate, I feel like I will have to look for another therapist who can."

This is just silly, in my opinion. Maybe it's because I have a therapist who is so focussed on me and on top of everything in a session. I don't know.

I do know that you deserve better and shouldn't be made to feel like you're in the wrong about this. From what you've said, you've completely approached this in the best way possible.