Interesting question. I do not wish to be like my T in general. I like her very much, feel connected to her, and appreciate her wisdom, experience, and caring. We have some things in common like a love of music, writing, etc. And on hard days when being a busy mother is driving me crazy, I have moments of envy for her quiet single life. Still, I just want to be like me, as much as possible, as fully as possible.