> Today I realized when he was asking me questions that I had the answers to his questions, I could think of the answers very clearly, but I couldn't say them. I would be thinking the answer and find myself saying "I'm not sure" or "I don't know". Or he would ask if I had something else to say about it and I would be saying no while I was thinking of the other things I had to say about it.

Oh my God! What progress! That is terrific!

I always used to be 'I don't know' and 'I'm not sure'. It used to drive my therapist nuts. But I didn't know and I wasn't sure... My next therapist was good at shifting to process issues (which I love) when I struggle with content (which I really do have considerable difficulty with at times). She managed to talk to me about what the 'I don't know' was about. Mostly... It was because I didn't know. Blank mind. Couldn't think of anything to say. But sometimes... I would have a thought occur to me but... I didn't want to say it.

Why not?
Why is it hard?

Sometimes it can be about trust. That the person will hear and respect what we are saying.

Do you think it might be about that?

Those kinds of things that you feel like you should say but you don't say... Those are the kinds of things that it is most important to say. Because... Saying them and getting a good response from your t... Is the most healing thing of all.

Don't you dare quit!

;-)

One way might be for you to tell your t that you are finding this so you can work out a signal. Raising a little finger or something like that. If you get an urge to say something but can't get it out then you could raise your finger and he could give you some time or try and help you say it. Do you think that might help?