There's no easy way to say this, so we'll just let it go... I don't think my marriage is going to last. Been married for 3 years, wife recently had our first child - which is obviously the bigger hitch. I want to work on our relationship problems, but I get push-back from her on something as fundamental as counseling. I'll force the issue at some point, when things settle down with the baby, but I'm not optimistic about the outcome.

So I'm looking at maybe 2 more years, maybe 3. My primary concern is my son of course, and it's on that end I really have questions. I'm one who believes that two parents who stay together in a toxic relationship are more damaging to children than the process of divorce. I'm wondering how others come down on that opinion?

And with that said, is there a better age for this type of transition? Is sooner really better than later for his wellbeing? He is currently 3 months, so maybe looking at age 3 or 4... how rough is that likely to be for him compared to being older, maybe 6-7?

-C