So sorry you've having problems with such a young marriage.

It's possible your wife is still going through some hormonal changes from the birth of your child. She's probably also going through mental and emotional changes. If you can, give her some more time. Talk to her doctor and get that person's opinion on what's going on with your wife.

As for kids and a divorce... Kids ALWAYS get stuck in the middle no matter how amicable the divorce is. But I would have to say that the sooner the better while your son is still unaware of what's going on around him. They are so impressionable once they become aware of their surroundings. Children always seem to think the divorce is THEIR fault, that they caused it somehow.

Bottom line, though, that child deserves both mother and father. Have you talked with your wife and gotten any reasons or clues as to why she's pushing you away? That would be a good place to start. If you think some counseling would help, then YOU go. That way you'll know that you tried everything you could.