You're right. It should be off but emotions sometimes get in the way of logic. I've asked him to move out b/c I feel insecure in the relationship, I don't trust him, he is very selfish & only looks out for himself. After everything I've done for him, he done nothing but hurt me, takes advantage of my kindness & b/c I love him. I have to rebuild my boundaries & start over alone...without him. He's a damaged man & has issues with women. I thought I could show him what love is but he's too narcissstic & stubborn to listen. He does't want to go to therapy b/c he doesn't think anything is wrong with him. He blames all the problems inthe relationship on me! He blames me for losing everything he owned whenhe moved here without a job & $. I supported him the best that I could but even now when things are better for him, he does nothing for me unless it benefits him too.