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Originally Posted by stopdog
I am not certain which part you are upset about - that your therapist does not share your disapproval of an open relationship or that you have a different opinion from your therapist.
For me, I would think that if a couple is happy with the choices they make ("we have decided on an open marriage and it makes us both happy") then how is that not a perfect couple? (I actually do not believe in the idea of a perfect couple - but going along with the concept). Is it not possible to have perfect coupledom be that couple deciding what works for them and then having the ability to put that idea into play regardless of whether it fits other's ideas of how a couple should be?
But the other part of this is whether by not having the therapist share your view - is it that you are feeling disappointed that the therapist has a different moral code than you do and what would that mean in the broader sense?
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Thanks stopdog, I think what you're saying makes sense. They seem to both be in agreement of this arrangement, and I never suspected anything like this from them because they seem happy together. So who am I to judge this? And that's true, there really is no "perfect" couple. I think I just need to hear my sister's reasoning about this.
But yes, you did hit it spot on about me being upset partially because of my T's reaction. I was having a hard time figuring out why I got mad at her. I'm afraid that she will think less of me for being so judgmental at my sister when she herself isn't judgmental of that sort of thing. I'm starting to think I was thinking about all of this in a cruel way. That's a side of me she hasn't seen. And I care a lot about what she thinks of me.