Good questions. I'm not leaving a job. I'm on disability income and it follows me wherever I go. I can find work there when I am ready to work. I don't own a house. I don't have kids. He has a 27 y.o. son that lives in a different city. He's buying a house eventually that will include my name.

I've thought about the ring thing. Maybe it would help. I'm not interested, nor is he, in getting married. I know a ring doesn't have to equal marriage; that it's about showing an investment in the relationship. A commitment ceremony is what I'd like one day and he's interested in that also. Maybe that's something to consider doing before the move. I had imagined doing it one day in the future. I know we're both committed to this relationship. But what I wrote about goes beyond rings and practicalities. I doubt even having a ring would calm my fears. I'd giving up a great therapist and psychiatrist, both who said I can continue with them via phone. I have few friends that I am not all that close to. When I imagine a ring on my finger, while it would look pretty, it wouldn't address these fears that I've been struggling with for my whole life. I'm guessing that he could do and say all the "right" things and I would still have this mountain of fear to climb. (A ring would just weigh me down. Haha)
I'm going to practice letting in the love more, opening myself up wider to the image that another human could actually be loving enough, safe enough, trustworthy enough... like I feel with animals. I don't ever interpret their actions as hurtful or anything personal. I just look at the situation and trust and respect the animal's needs, etc. I believe it can be the same with humans. I know I believe that other people's actions/words reflect much more about them than anything personal about me.........