That does sound frustrating. I'd imagine it's difficult for both of you - although the power is only in your hands to work towards making changes which may leave her feeling a bit helpless when you're not making an effort. Unpleasant, yes - but perhaps T is hoping that sharing this comment with you will help provide you with some motivation. It's important to share what you're feeling with T, as it may lead to some important discoveries for you.

It's one thing to struggle with making changes - and it's another to not make any effort at all. Exploring the barriers that are getting in the way of you trying to make changes may be worth addressing.