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So I'm looking at maybe 2 more years, maybe 3. My primary concern is my son of course, and it's on that end I really have questions. I'm one who believes that two parents who stay together in a toxic relationship are more damaging to children than the process of divorce. I'm wondering how others come down on that opinion?

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*****This is only my opinion. I do not wish that my words hurt anyone.*****

I am so sorry to here that you are having difficulties in your marriage. When I read your words I can see that you are hurting
IMHO - You can't put a time limit on your relationship and how long it will last or how long that you are willing to try to make it last. Yes there are children involved and that makes it harder to decide on what to do. Counselling is a great step to take if you want to try to make the relationship work. I gear towards that. But if you feel that councelling will not help you or your wife feels that it will not help then there is that next step. Divorce. Remember yes your son may be hurt, but he is still young. You would be/are hurting yourself by playing along in a marrage that isn't working anymore. RED FLAG-Some relationships bump for a bit when a child is born. It's natural you are adjusting to another person thats come into your world. It's possible she may need one on one therapy and you yourself unless you already recieve it? I don't know. It sounds as if you are eager to fix your relationship, but she is stepping back a bit? Like I had mentioned she may need therapy to get herself back. I had Post Partum depression after I had my daughter and it took a long time to get somewhat balanced.
I am so sorry Checkers, Your relationship can be fixed if both of you are able to work at it. Maybe she just need time? A pregnancy can due alot to a woman. How was the relationship before your son was born? Do you think that is important to take in consideration? I hope to here from you.

I wish the best for you!

Jlove