If you're currently in a relationship, would you describe it as healthy? If not, would you describe your most recent relationship as healthy? If not, why?
I'd say my current relationship is way more healthy than my marriage was, but there are some pretty serious issues that need working through. There have been times when I would have left, accept that he threatened to use my past and physical disability to gain custody of our daughter. Needless to say that made me throw the whole leaving him idea out the window cuz I'll be damned if I will have either of my kids taken away from me. He has also gotten physical with me a few times (as in grabbing and pushing, not as in punching or beating). Although in his defence my BPD doesn't make me the easiest person to live with, especially since I'm not currently on any medication due to the fact that I'm breastfeeding. and I learned verbally/emotionally behavior from my ex-husband.
Him and I are trying hard to work on the problems in our relationship. He's loving, patient, and great with the kids. Basicly everything my ex-husband and other ex's are not. I know our relationship isn't 100% healthy, but I'm not sure that such a thing is possible for me because of the BPD.