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Originally Posted by atomicc
The sad thing is I know all of what you're saying is true. I know I can be alone if I tried. I know I push people away with my constant what ifs and please don't leave me. It's so hard to stop..dbt is great, I'm reading a book on it. I just have far too much going on to commit myself to really really getting myself under control. So till then I'll do as you suggested and just try and think of something else.
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Believe me, I do understand. I drove both friends and boyfriend's away with the "what if" game and being so needy.
My old DBT therapist told me that if I did something like gripping ice cubes or some other stimuli to help me tolerate the moment, that it would pas. and he was right. Again, easier said than done though I know.
With enough practice you can make that BPD voice considerably less loud. It will probably never shut up completely, but I know I'm amazed at how much I've learned to put mine in check. I used to be jealous of my best friend making other friends or any perceived threat to our friendship. I'm not that way any longer and those paranoid jealous thoughts rarely come now. When they do they're a lot easier to ignore.
Have you heard of DBT self help? it's great for those on the go like you.