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Originally Posted by ThroughBeingCool
Believe me, I do understand. I drove both friends and boyfriend's away with the "what if" game and being so needy.
My old DBT therapist told me that if I did something like gripping ice cubes or some other stimuli to help me tolerate the moment, that it would pas. and he was right. Again, easier said than done though I know.
With enough practice you can make that BPD voice considerably less loud. It will probably never shut up completely, but I know I'm amazed at how much I've learned to put mine in check. I used to be jealous of my best friend making other friends or any perceived threat to our friendship. I'm not that way any longer and those paranoid jealous thoughts rarely come now. When they do they're a lot easier to ignore.
Have you heard of DBT self help? it's great for those on the go like you.
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Yeah, I'm exactly like that. I have had it under control for a long time but with the loss of my best friend issues I thought conquered are coming back. I do have a dbt workbook and my therapist and I are working on it. I really am trying. I know it'll always be part of my personality but I have gotten so much better. I'm just in a rut this minute. My.Zoloft helps. right now I'm in my "**** him, he's horrible and I can be just fine. I'm not giving him any satisfaction" mood. I'll be very distant today. Then I'll probably cry.
He's used to this. It's three years next month.
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Allie
Diagnosed: Generalized Anxiety Disorder & Obsessive Compulsive Disoder. Previous: Borderline Personality Disorder.
I no longer qualify for a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, but there will always be my borderline traits that I struggle with especially during times of great stress.
I've been working passionately as a therapist since December 2016
