I've never participated in this kind of forum so please bear with me.
I have a relationship problem & I have no where else to turn. My partner & I have been together for 18 yrs. (10 of those living together but now we live in separate apartments). Both my partner (I'll call her A) & I both suffer from depression & anxiety. Our relationship has always been an emotional roller coaster. We've fought so bad that a couple of times the cops have been called.
Making things worse, earlier this year A was diagnosed with cancer. She was actually diagnosed because she got so emotionally upset that I called the paramedics who took her to the hospital & then her disease was found.
A is an extremely difficult person to be around. She is negative, highly depressed, has a horrible temper, & sees herself as a victim. Just today when I told her that I thought I was coming down with a cold she actually said that I was jealous that she had cancer.
I have long suspected that our relationship is toxic. I feel like she takes out her bad moods on me, takes no responsibility, & now she's drinking a lot which makes her behavior worse.
I am alone & have lately felt increasingly helpless & trapped. I'm poor & have no friends & my family is out of the picture. Although I've been by A's side through her treatments it's never good enough. When the doctors say she doesn't need more treatment she won't believe it. All she does is ***** & complain (not about the cancer but the depression).
Does anyone have any suggestions? I need some help.